Sexual/Dating Violence Awareness

THIS APP IS INFORMATIONAL AND IN NO WAY REPLACES CSU EXECUTIVE ORDER 1095, WHICH CAN BE FOUND AT: http://www.calstate.edu/eo/EO-1095.html How do I know if I am a victim? What should I do if I am a victim? Where can I get help? How can I help to prevent sexual/dating violence? What will happen to an individual who commits sexual/dating violence? Common myths about sexual/dating violence. What protection do I have under federal law (Title IX)?

How do I know if I am a victim?

Sexual Violence

If you have experienced any sexual act against your will and without your full consent, you may be a victim of sexual violence – even if you were unable to give consent because of alcohol or other causes. Sexual violence may or may not include physical force and may be committed by your partner, a stranger or an acquaintance. For the full definition of sexual violence and various forms of sexual violence, see Executive Order 1095, which can be found at: www.calstate.edu/eo/EO-1095.html Intimate Partner Violence Intimate partner violence is any physical, verbal, or sexual abuse by a current or former dating or romantic partner. You may be a victim of intimate partner violence if you: • Are frightened by your partner’s temper • Have been hit, kicked or shoved by your partner • Think it is your fault when your partner treats you badly or hurts you. • Have excessive calls or texts from your partner wanting to know where you are at all times. • Alter the way you act, dress, or socialize because of your partner’s excessive jealousy • Cannot use birth control because your partner won’t let you • For the full definitions of dating and domestic violence, see Executive Order 1095, which can be found at: www.calstate.edu/eo/EO-1095.html

Stalking

Stalking is a series of acts by another person who harasses you (for example, repeated phone calls or repeated incidents of following you) and makes you fear for your safety. This includes excessive emails or other electronic communications conveying threats. It is important to recognize that sexual violence, intimate partner violence, and stalking are NEVER THE VICTIM’S FAULT! These acts are not just wrong; they are criminal and violate campus policy. For the full definition of stalking, see Executive Order 1095, which can be found at: www.calstate.edu/eo/EO-1095.html For more information go to www.csus.edu/titleix

What should I do if I am a victim?

• Your immediate safety is first. Call 911 if your safety is immediately threatened. • Try to go to a safe place. • Call the campus victim advocate at (916) 278-3799. The advocate can provide emotional support, connect you to needed services, assist with reporting if desired, explain your rights and maintain confidentiality. • Call someone you trust, like a friend or a member of your family. • Get medical attention as soon as possible. Medical care is important, in case you are injured and to protect against sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. • Reporting to the police is your choice. If you decide not to go to the police right away, write down everything you remember about what happened and save it in case you change your mind. Campus police can be reached at 911 or (916) 278-6900 for emergencies and (916) 278-6851 for non-emergencies. • Preserve as much evidence as you can by putting the clothes you were wearing in a paper bag and not taking a shower or bathing before getting medical attention. • Make a report to the University by contacting the Office of Equal Opportunity at (916) 278-2843. OEO will conduct any subsequent investigation on behalf of the University. CSU Executive Order 1095 is the campus policy and procedure regarding sexual violence. It can be found at: www.calstate.edu/eo/EO-1095.html For more information go to www.csus.edu/titleix

Where can I get help?

Sacramento State Victim Advocate: (916) 278-3799 The advocate can provide emotional support, connect you to needed services, assist with reporting if desired, explain your rights and maintain confidentiality.

Medical and Mental Health Services

• On campus: o Student Health and Counseling Services: (916) 278-6461 • In Sacramento or after hours, go to your local emergency department: o Mercy General Hospital, 4001 J St., Sacramento, CA 95819 o Sutter General Hospital, 2801 L St., Sacramento, CA 95816 o UC Davis Medical Center, 4251 X St., Sacramento, CA 95817 Campus Office of Equal Opportunity: (916) 278-2843 The Title IX Coordinator’s office addresses any issues of sexual harassment involving the campus community, including incidents of sexual violence. You should report the incident to the campus Title IX Coordinator in the Office of Equal Opportunity, whether you make a police report or not. This office offers numerous resources and can take action such as putting interim measures into place to ensure your safety while the campus investigates. Campus Police: 911 or (916) 278-6900 for an emergency or (916) 278-6851 for non-emergencies Sacramento Police: 911 or (916) 264-5471 Rape 24 Hour Crisis Line (through WEAVE): (916) 920-2952 Sacramento County Mental Health Crisis Intervention (24/7): (888) 881-4881 For more information go to For more information go to www.csus.edu/titleix

How can I help to prevent sexual/dating violence?

No one deserves to be sexually assaulted, stalked or victimized. As a member of the campus community, you can help prevent sexual violence. Don’t engage in any behavior that may be considered sexual violence, domestic violence, and/or dating violence, stalking or any other form of violence. Never use force, coercion, threats, alcohol or other drugs to engage in sexual activity. Take responsibility for your actions. Don’t be a passive bystander. Intervene when and if you see behavior around you that is risky and/or inappropriate. Avoid alcohol and other drugs. And if you partake, monitor your consumption and that of those around you. Remember, “no” means “No!” and “stop” means “Stop!” Be aware. Does your partner: Threaten to hurt you or your children? Say it’s your fault if he or she hits you and then promises it won’t happen again (but it does)? Put you down in public? Force you to have sex when you don’t want to? Follow you? Send you unwanted messages and gifts? If so, get help. Be assertive. Speak up. Clearly communicate limits to partners, friends, and acquaintances. Never leave a party with someone you don’t know well and trust. Trust your feelings; if it feels wrong, it probably is. Report incidents of violence (including coercion) to law enforcement and campus authorities. Discuss sexual violence, domestic violence, dating violence, and stalking with friends. Speak out against violence and clear up misconceptions. Don’t mistake submission or silence for consent. For more information go to www.csus.edu/titleix

What will happen to an individual who commits sexual/dating violence?

Anyone who commits sexual/dating violence may be criminally prosecuted and subject to University discipline, up to and including expulsion. For more information go to www.csus.edu/titleix

Common myths about sexual/dating violence:

1) Myth: Victims provoke sexual assaults when they dress provocatively or act in a promiscuous manner. Fact:Rape and Sexual Violence are crimes of violence and control that stem from a person’s determination to exercise power over another. Neither provocative dress nor promiscuous behaviors are invitations for unwanted sexual activity. Forcing someone to engage in non-consensual sexual activity is sexual assault, regardless of the way that person dresses or acts. 2) Myth: If a person goes to someone’s room or house or goes to a bar, s/he assumes the risk of sexual assault. If something happens later, s/he can’t claim that s/he was raped or sexually assaulted because s/he should have known not to go to those places. Fact:This “assumption of risk” wrongfully places the responsibility of the offender’s action with the victim. Even if a person went voluntarily to someone’s home or room and consented to engage in some sexual activity, it does not serve as blanket consent for all sexual activity. When in doubt if the person is comfortable with an elevated level of sexual activity, stop and ask. When someone says “no” or “stop,” that means “STOP!” Sexual activity forced upon another without valid consent is sexual assault. 3) Myth: It is not Sexual Violence if it happens after drinking or taking drugs. Fact:Being under the influence of alcohol or drugs is not an invitation for sexual activity. A person under the influence does not cause others to assault her/him; others choose to take advantage of the situation and sexually assault her/him because s/he is in a vulnerable position. A person who is incapacitated due to the influence of alcohol or drugs is not able to consent to sexual activity. 4)Myth: Most sexual assaults are committed by strangers. It’s not rape if the people involved know each other. Fact:Most sexual assaults and rape are committed by someone the victim knows. A study of sexual victimization of college women showed that about 90% of victims knew the person who sexually victimized them. Most often, a boyfriend, ex-boyfriend, classmate, friend, acquaintance or co-worker sexually victimized the person. It is important to remember that Sexual Violence can occur in both heterosexual and same- gender relationships. 5) Myth: Rape can be avoided if women avoid dark alleys or other “dangerous” places where strangers might be hiding or lurking. Fact:Rape and Sexual Violence can occur at any time, in many places, to anyone. 6) Myth: A person who has really been sexually assaulted will be hysterical. Fact:Victims of Sexual Violence exhibit a spectrum of responses to the assault which can include: calm, hysteria, withdrawal, anxiety, anger, apathy, denial and shock. Being sexually assaulted is a very traumatic experience. Reaction to the assault and the length of time needed to process through the experience vary with each person. There is no “right way” to react to being sexually assaulted. Assumptions about the way a victim “should act” may be detrimental to the victim because each victim copes in different ways. 7) Myth: All Sexual Violence victims will report the crime immediately to the police. If they do not report it or delay in reporting it, then they must have changed their minds after it happened, wanted revenge or didn’t want to look like they were sexually active. Fact:There are many reasons why a Sexual Violence victim may not report the assault to the police or campus officials. It is not easy to talk about being sexually assaulted and can feel very shameful. The experience of retelling what happened may cause the person to relive the trauma. Another reason for delaying a report or not making a report is the fear of retaliation by the offender. There is also the fear of being blamed, not being believed and being required to go through judicial proceedings. Just because a person does not report the Sexual Violence does not mean it did not happen. 8) Myth: Only young, pretty women are assaulted. Fact:The belief that only young, pretty women are sexually assaulted stems from the myth that Sexual Violence is based on sex and physical attraction. Sexual Violence is a crime of power and control. Offenders often choose people whom they perceive as most vulnerable to attack or over whom they believe they can assert power. Men and boys are also sexually assaulted, as well as persons with disabilities. Assumptions about the “typical” victim might lead others not to report the assault because they do not fit the stereotypical victim. 9) Myth: It’s only rape if the victim puts up a fight and resists. Fact:Many states do not require the victim to resist in order to charge the offender with rape or sexual assault. Those who do not resist may feel if they do so, they will anger their attacker, resulting in more severe injury. Many assault experts say that victims should trust their instincts and intuition and do what they believe will most likely keep them alive. Not fighting or resisting an attack does not equal consent. 10) Myth: Someone can only be sexually assaulted if a weapon was involved. Fact:In many cases of sexual assault, a weapon is not involved. The offender often uses physical strength, physical violence, intimidation, threats or a combination of these tactics to overpower the victim. Although the presence of a weapon while committing the assault may result in a higher penalty or criminal charge, the absence of a weapon does not mean that the offender cannot be held criminally responsible for a sexual assault. Source: Attachment B to Executive Order 1095: www.calstate.edu/eo/EO-1095.html
What protection do I have under federal law (Title IX)? Sexual/dating violence is a form of sex discrimination prohibited under Title IX, a federal law that applies to universities. Title IX protects all people from sex discrimination regardless of their gender or gender identity. State law offers similar protections. The CSU also has a system-wide policy prohibiting discrimination based on gender, including sexual violence. See Executive Order 1095, which can be found at: www.calstate.edu/eo/EO-1095.html For more information go to www.csus.edu/titleix.